Yesterday Yani was with one of her favorite people and she spent the whole time thinking the woman looked amazing. Beautiful. Glorious. And, yes, quite sexy. Then standing in adjoining dressing rooms at a suburban Ann Taylor she couldn’t believe when the woman told her she was having “a bad body image day” and wasn’t going to buy a top that was hugging her in all the right ways because it made her feel anxious.
Today Yani’s having one of those very same days, except she’s just sitting in her house in a big sweatshirt from high school and sweats that are roomy enough to fit everyone in her apartment building inside. If she had to leave the house today…well, that’s just too awful to consider.
She’s thinking she could do one of two things. Crack open a tub of Soy Delicious ice cream and go to town or maybe try to actually get outside of her own head. She keeps remembering her new favorite quote, from Ophira Edut, a writer/body activist whose work she’s always loved. Ophira wrote that body image, hers or anyone else’s, has “very little to do with one’s body. It’s our perception of our bodies, not the bodies themselves. After all, it’s the brain that forms our images, that interprets messages from glossy magazines and TV shows and high school hierarchies.”
So, Yani’s throwing it out there to you: What triggers your bad body image days? And what do you do to get back to feeling good?