An aside about that Black women with jobs cain’t git a man show

Since no one signed on for the guest post (you know who you are!) I was going to try live-blogging about Nightline’s “Face-Off: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?”

Sadly, I kept falling asleep.

The part I did see featured a very unmarried Hill Harper using Barack Obama as an example of the Black Everyman’s potential—you know, the stuff Sisters of the Big Shoulder Pad Tribe ignore because they’re too busy chasing upper middle class pipe dreams and Sapphiring out on blue-collar brothers.

Anyway, I was gonna wake up early and watch it online then do a catchup post. Except I was working on a bill-paying, old media assignment–about what men like in bed. (Ha!)

So now I’m  too late. Everything good to say about this essentializing, divisive, ahistorical, overly general fra fra has been said by the Crunk Feminist Collective and the Facebook pop-Womanist massive.

One teeny scrap I can’t resist riffing on:

The headline for the online version of the broadcast reads like this:

Nightline Face-Off: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?

Sparks, Sincerity, Sass Fill Atlanta Auditorium in Seventh ‘Nightline Face-Off.

I understand the impulse to abuse alliteration (see?). But if you’re using the odious “sass” in reference to Black women–financially successful or otherwise–you don’t need to be selling ad space on our backs. Keep our romantic lives, our hair, our sexual health, our income, our weight, our desires, our souls, our fate out of your greedy, hype-riding mouths. You don’t really mean us well. So just stop it.



Filed under Barack Obama, Choosing love, crazy+racism=cracism, Faux empowerment, Should be embarrassed, stream of consciousness

4 responses to “An aside about that Black women with jobs cain’t git a man show

  1. This post is great. *insert bronx cheer*

    I would add that one other thing I found interesting about the whole thing was the massive audience of Black women from the Atlanta area that were in attendance. They clearly weren’t there to get the panel straight or stage a protest against ABC News for “selling ad space on our backs” – which means they were there for some answers and thought somehow the motley crew assembled there could help them. That makes me sad.

    It also makes me sad that you could probably poll the audience and find 98% of those in attendance were also apart of the first wave of moviegoers that sent “Tyler Perry’s Why Did I Get Married Too” to #2 in the box office (behind Clash of the Titans) it’s opening week.

    *deep sigh*

    We need a hero.

  2. Bridgette

    *shrugs shoulders* I didn’t see the show. This “successful” Black woman was watching playoff basketball at home with her boyfriend. The whole concept of the show was just wickety wack but it doesn’t seem like there is an end in sight and as you’ve pointed out, everyone is profiting from this BUT Black women.

  3. Hear, hear! You’re right, there is nothing else to say, Ak. Except this: We need to be our own heros.

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